The importance of being positive is probably one of the most important lessons you can learn for successful manifesting, and successful life: as we have discussed in our articles How manifestation works and Three simple manifesting tips, even if you’re not focused on attracting any particular thing or circumstance, you can improve the general quality of your life just by thinking positive thoughts and feeling happiness and joy: remember, as “like attracts like“, positive thoughts and feelings will attract positive situations and outcomes.
But being or becoming a positive person is many times easier said than done, especially if your current situation isn’t leaving much room for feeling naturally grateful for it. Luckily for us all, being positive is also something you can learn to be, and you can start right now.
The first step is:
1. Understand that Being Happy and Positive Is Your Choice
That’s right. People weren’t born with a positive or negative attitude – they learn to be one or the other as they go through their lives, and they can change that attitude at any point. You can blame the outer circumstances and other people, you can continue to complain and to see the glass half-empty – but you can also stop and right now make the choice to look at the brighter side of life. Understand this, and you’re already half way to making the positive shift in your mind and in your life.
2. Remove the Negative Things and People from Your Life
You know how some people are just spreading negativity everywhere they go? Not only do they always complain about their own circumstances, but they also don’t encourage your happiness, always wanting you to participate in their pain. You probably know at least a few of them. Well, close your doors to such people. Seriously. You don’t have to be rude, but it’s OK to let them know that you have decided to change the way you look at life, and that they’re welcome to join you if they want – and it’s also OK to let them know that you don’t want to listen to the complaints and accusations anymore.
Surround yourself with the positive people, nice pictures, listen to the music that brings up the joy in you. And once you make the internal shift to the positive attitude, you will start attracting positive people and positive things, so it will be much easier.
3. Be Realistic
Being positive doesn’t mean that you have to become a saint all of a sudden. Positive people also experience negative emotions – it’s just life, but you can choose not to let the negative emotions get the best of you, and not to get disappointed when your expectations aren’t met. It’s the overall attitude that matters, and you should train your mind to find the way out of a bad situation, instead of surrendering to it.
4. Look for the Positive in Life, in Others and in You
There is good and bad in every person, including you, and in every situation, including your current one. If you understood the Step 1, you know that it’s up to you on which side you’ll be focusing your attention.
When faced with a challenging situation, ask yourself: “What is good about this?“ and, no matter how difficult it may seem, with time and practice you will naturally start seeing the positive side of everything first.
Also, don’t hesitate to reinforce positivity in yourself by applying positive self-talk, positive visualizations and affirmations. When you’re just starting out with making that change inside you, you will probably need some extra help to make it stick. “I can do it!“ “I feel terrific!“ – yes, these are only words, but if you say them like you mean them, you will feel better, and eventually believe it. For more info, see our articles about how to use positive affirmations and how to visualize.
5. Adopt the Positive Habits and Eliminate the Negative Ones
If you’re abusing alcohol or drugs, or if you have other habits that impact your life in a negative way, remove them from your life; it’s again a choice you can make – if you’re aware that a certain behavior is bad for your physical or mental health, there’s no reason to leave it in your life. Include instead healthy eating habits and exercise as a way to change your body, as well as your mind, for the better. Habits of positive people also include devoting your time to learning something new and growing, mentally and spiritually.
6. Treat Others With Kindness
This is probably the easiest thing to do, that’s why we saved it for last: it really doesn’t cost you anything to be kind with other people, and it’s one of the best and simplest ways to also feel good about yourself. When you are kind to others, they will respond the same way, helping you to spread positivity everywhere you go. And it doesn’t require much effort either: tell your friend she looks nice today, don’t gossip, compliment a presentation that your colleague gave. That’s all there is to it.
Being positive is the simplest way to successfully manifesting a happy life, and you can do it, anyone can. Just know that it’s up to you – just like everything else in your life!
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This is the second in our series of articles about making being positive a part of your consistent practice. The first one was: Optimism and Positivity as Secrets to Success, and the next one is How to Stop Negative Thinking.
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