“I’m stuck in my current situation.”
“I can’t do that. I can’t be successful.”
“Who’d love me?”
And tons of other thoughts that make your mind their playground, holding you back in life. These aren’t just opinions; these are far more serious – these are beliefs.
The difference is that with the opinions – you’re conscious of them, you’ve chosen to have them and you can change them if you want. Beliefs are much more solid than that – they’re ideas built over time and stored in your subconscious. True or not, you’ll believe them as long as they’re present in your mind.
And, whether you like it or not, they can interfere with your manifesting: as successful manifesting requires you to believe 100% that you’ll attract what you want, the beliefs you might be holding in your subconscious could easily be saying that you can’t believe that you’re able to manifest it. Love, happiness, money, success… there might be something in the back of your mind saying that you can’t have them, or that you’re unworthy of them. And manifesting then goes right out the window…
How Does It Happen?
These beliefs are built over time. An idea may turn into a belief when it constantly bypasses your conscious mind and enters straight into your subconscious. It then creates new neural pathways, which grow stronger the longer you’re exposed to that idea.
An idea will most often bypass your conscious filter when:
- It comes from a trusted source. The most common case are beliefs that are formed in childhood, when your most trusted source were your parents. If they told you that this food is called eggs, that the sky is blue – you would believe them. When everything else around you supports that idea, it turns into strong belief.
On the other hand, if your parents kept telling you that the sky is green, that you’re ugly and stupid… you would grow up believing it. It doesn’t even has to be said, sometimes, for more sensitive children, it’s enough if the parents keep reacting in a certain way that they perceive as “he’s worthless, he’s good for nothing” and they can easily grow up feeling inferior, uncertain of their own worth.
- When the conscious mind gets distracted. When your conscious mind is fully engaged elsewhere, you become highly receptive to suggestions. The adverts in the middle of your favorite TV show would be an example (although this isn’t as easy as the “conspiracy theoreticians” would like us to think – you have to be exposed to the same stimuli for a longer period of time), or when you read a great book.
Beliefs are a good thing as long as they push us forward; we can often create a self-fulfilling prophecy when we deeply believe something – for example, when we believe that we’ll get a certain job, we’ll be more confident at the interview and leave a good impression, which can lead to actually getting the job.
But it can also go negative: if we believe that we’re boring, we’ll probably have a hard time finding a boyfriend or girlfriend, simply because we’ll be insecure around them, pointing out our negative sides – thus really being a boring date.
So we need to recognize which beliefs aren’t beneficial to us, and find a way to deal with them.
How Can You Take Control Over It?
The negative beliefs need to be constantly challenged and exposed to their opposites. If you believe you’re boring, keep asking yourself: “Am I really THAT boring?” and remind yourself of the situations with your close friends or family members when you were actually quite funny; keep asking yourself: “Do I really have a 100% clear clue to support this belief, or can it be attributed to my imagination and the behavior that came out of it?”
As often as you can expose yourself to the opposite of this negative belief: use positive affirmations, write down the situations that prove otherwise, talk about it with people who know you.
And be open to believing that you’re OK – that’s the most important part 🙂