The law of attraction, once you understand how it works, is essentially a simple concept: you attract what you think about the most to your life. Your thoughts, empowered by the strength of the emotions they provoke, are capable of manifesting and creating your life – in fact, no matter whether you’re aware of it or not, whether you believe it or not, the life that you’re living right now is the life you have created for yourself some time in your past by thinking it.
That sounds cool, right – we create our own universe. So why, you may ask, is your life crappy, why doesn’t that girl love you back, why does your job suck? If you have read anything on how the law of attraction works, you should already know – or at least guess – the answer to that, but we’ll explain anyway: because you were thinking it so vividly, your thoughts about the impossibility for that girl to love you were so intense that they have caused the strong belief that you were unworthy of her love – thus creating the universe in which she probably doesn’t even know you exist.
It’s tempting to make the law of attraction about your wishes. Only, it isn’t. It’s about your thoughts.
That’s why the principle of focus is so important: first and foremost, focus on what you do want, not on what you don’t want. What you think becomes your reality, so if you think: why doesn’t she love me? – you’re focusing on the negative things, the things you don’t want, but they become real nevertheless simply because you believe they are. Henry Ford said it nicely:
Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t – you’re right.
So, the first exercise for you is to define your thoughts in such a way that they accurately and positively reflect your wishes.
Define Your Wishes and Pick One Goal at a Time
If someone said to you: “Make a wish, anything you want, and I’ll make it happen.” – what would your wish be? Would you be able to define it so that it covers every little detail that will make you happy?
Most people can’t, and you’re probably one of them. Some of the usual types of wishes are:
- I want a better life.
- I want a great boyfriend.
- I want to be married by the end of the year.
- I want my children to be successful.
- I want more luck.
Now, if you said to that person: “I want a better life” – how can he know what exactly you mean by that, what “a better life” means to you? He can guess, yes, but he can’t guarantee that you will be happy with what you will get. A great boyfriend – if you want him to be tall and handsome, say so; old, generous, chubby guys can also make great boyfriends. Married by the end of the year? Fantastic! You would be very happy if you married a guy who drinks beer all day long and enjoys slapping you every once in a while, wouldn’t you?
It’s the same with the law of attraction. You will get what you want/think about, but unless you’re precise in every detail, it may not be what will truly make you happy – or you may end up with nothing at all, because your “wish” was too abstract, and you were unable to focus your mind on it as intensely as you should have.
And now maybe you’re starting to realize why it’s not smart to start with “big wishes”. They dilute your thoughts and require too much concentration. So start small.
Make a list of all the things that would make you happy, things that you’d like to manifest, and start with the ones that are the least difficult: if a cup of coffee would make your day, then start with a cup of coffee. If it’s a boyfriend wish, then start by thinking about just meeting someone tall and handsome (or chubby and generous, if that’s what you prefer). Focus on it, and don’t think about anything else. Choose one goal at a time. And then, when you get confident and after you get a deeper understanding on how the law of attraction works, go bigger.
Defining and picking your goals is one aspect of the principle of focus. Focusing your thoughts on it is the second one.
Focus on the Things You Want to Attract
After you’ve picked your goal, it’s time to give it your full attention. That doesn’t mean that you should dwell on that cup of coffee all day long, but for the few minutes that you do, make it worthwhile.
Focus your mind and your emotions intensely on your goal. Imagine that you have already achieved it, the feeling that you would have once it manifests in your life. Positive thinking generates positive emotions, and the stronger your emotions are, the better and faster results you get.
You can use a range of tools to increase your focus and mental concentration, whatever works best for you. Meditation and guided meditation can help you take control of your mind; hypnosis and subliminal messages are often used to get you in a positive state of mind that makes manifestation much easier; visualization is probably the most popular method – and they all work, just pick the one that will work best for you.
Once you have mastered manifesting the smaller goals, you will be free to pursue bigger ones, and you’ll know exactly how to do it. The law of attraction itself doesn’t make a distinction between big and small things – if you want to own a $5 million house or to reconnect with your childhood friend, it’s just the same in the order of how things work; but it makes a huge difference to you and to how successful you are in making it work.
And remember – there’s no limit in what you can wish for, and no set number, so don’t be afraid that you’ll waste them. You can attract anything you want, and there’s no rush, you don’t have to do it all at once – but you do have to do it carefully, or it won’t happen.
Ready to make your list now?
This article is one principle in a series of 4 key manifesting principles. The first principle is the importance of knowledge. Please follow on to the next in the series to enhance your knowledge further – how to take action.
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