This is one question we hear pretty often – how could simple sentences make someone… well, change anything? And we have to agree, it does sound too good to be true, we say all sorts of things all the time, and it doesn’t make us any different – not that we notice anyhow. And yet, affirmations can do a pretty good job in making us feel good about ourselves, and we’re not the only ones who say that either 🙂
Here’s Melissa Ambrosini saying:
Mantras and affirmations are something I discovered many years ago (…) I started using them back then and haven’t stopped. The reason being – they work! They dramatically help shift my perception and snap me out of my funk.
There are tons of such testimonies, people who changed their lives thanks to these simple sentences. And not only that, you can search for weeks and not find any self help program or technique, including subliminal messages and hypnosis, that doesn’t include positive affirmations. The reason for this is, as Melissa put it – they work!
Why Do Positive Affirmations Work?
We talked about how positive affirmations influence our subconscious by changing the negative thought patterns created over time. It’s important to say, however, that not everyone will experience the same benefit from repeating positive affirmation, and for some of us it will take longer than for others. Now, why is that?
Well, first of all, we are struggling with different things, and even if both you and I were having a problem with our self confidence, yours might be “lighter” than mine. Two people have never had the same life experiences, and even if they did (twins who never separated, for example), they didn’t react to them the same way, so they didn’t leave the same consequences (good or bad).
Second, we have to be open to believe in the power of our affirmations to make them work – and we know that some people are more skeptical than others.
People who believe in their power to change how they feel will have a lot more success a lot faster, using positive affirmations. You see, your mind can’t tell the difference between a real and an imagined idea – that’s also the concept behind how visualizations work, for example: if you can use your conscious efforts to picture an image that looks realistic to your mind, your subconscious will eventually start believing it as well.
But – you have to believe that it’s true. That is, you have to use what you consciously know, to “persuade” your subconscious.
An example: struggling with self confidence, right? Every time someone says something that only remotely resembles a reproach, you will find a way to see it exactly like that: “Some people just don’t know how to behave” gets immediately translated in your mind as: “I’m the one who doesn’t know how to behave :(“.
This has roots somewhere in your past and in your subconscious: during some time in your life, or thanks to a series of unsuccessful events, you – your subconscious – has managed to store the negative signals and to shape them into something like this: “I am unsuccessful, I can’t do anything right, people always laugh at me behind my back…” etc. Including, of course, “I don’t know how to behave”.
Only, you know how to behave – you have demonstrated that gazillion times in the past, and in this particular situation you haven’t done anything wrong. You consciously know that. But still, the little voice inside your head keeps saying: “No, it has to be me they’re talking about.”
Well, the only way to shut that voice down is – to be louder than it 🙂 Be more persistent, and use what you consciously know is true to out-yell it – keep repeating to yourself:
- I’m a successful person who does things right, and I know how to behave.
This was a simple example, but you know why it will work, and why it will change your overall self confidence – not only in that moment?
Because you’re not dealing with the symptom only. That particular negative statement is a symptom of a deeper issue you have with your self confidence (of course, some self-investigation is required to arrive to the root problem). It’s only a symptom, but that symptom is so obviously untrue, that you can use it as a “proof” to your subconscious, as an illustration of how ridiculously unfounded your general low self confidence is. Beat one symptom at a time, and you’ll eventually become a truly satisfied person, happy with the way you are.
And you know what else? When you repeatedly say to yourself: “I’m a successful person”, it won’t only raise the level of your self confidence. You will become the successful person that you want to be – see our page about how positive affirmations affect the law of attraction and turn it to your favor.
Try Them Yourself!
Everyone can benefit from repeating positive affirmations, as long as they’re willing to. Let’s try right now – let’s do something to make you feel better about yourself!
Stand tall, relax your shoulders and take a few deep breaths. Read the affirmations below, and do try not to question them – prepare to say them with a confident voice, like you really mean it.
Now repeat, slowly:
I am totally comfortable being myself.
I am a good person who deserves to be happy.
I accept myself deeply and completely.
Repeat them one by one – slowly, like you believe them.
If this was your first time, it may have seemed a bit silly, but you get the idea. Now, imagine what it would do to your confidence and positivity if you did that several times a day. You’re too exposed to negative thoughts anyway, we all are – so why not change them? Write them down and have them with you all the time, to remind you to repeat them. Consciously shape yourself to a positive person with positive thoughts – by doing that, you’ll change the world around you as well 🙂
We have assembled for you more examples of positive affirmations, if you’d like to practice some more!
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