Jul 122014
 

Do you sometimes find yourself behaving in a manner that feels contradictory to what you believe, feel and want? Doing or saying things you don’t want to, or don’t believe – or the opposite, not doing what you desire?

Perhaps you’re not aware of it, but a lack of consistency in your behavior or attitude makes you less able to manifest your desired reality: a consistent mind is able to raise a consistent and powerful vibration, while an inconsistent, scattered mind has a very weak, even counter-productive effect on what you want to manifest.

Inner conflicts come from our general fear of conflicts – many people find them to be stressful and unpleasant, so they develop a habit of avoiding or suppressing conflicts altogether, including the ones within us. But conflicts serve an important purpose – they are a signal of what we need to fix in our emotional and belief systems so that we can grow and move forward.

But you can benefit from them only if you face them and deal with them effectively. And you can’t face something you’re denying now, can you?

So today we’re dealing with ways to recognize if you’re in conflict with yourself.

The most common symptoms of a person with a lot of inner conflicts

Ask yourself these questions:

1. Are you easily influenced by the opinions of others?

2. Do you find it difficult to reach a decision?

3. Do you feel guilt or shame about your natural drives and impulses (which aren’t endangering others)?

4. Do you constantly need others’ approval or support because you don’t have faith in your own judgment or abilities?

5. Do you find it difficult to say with certainty what you really want when it comes to your finances, relationships or lifestyle?

6. Do you keep attracting dysfunctional relationships?

7. Do you lack a sense of stability in yourself?

8. Are you trying to distract yourself so that you don’t have to face your conflicts (distractions in forms of alcohol or drugs, entertainment, even spirituality that is escape-oriented)?

If you can recognize your common behavior in two or more of these questions, then you should probably take a deep look inside and discover where is your conflicting vibration coming from. But before you do this, understand that the situations above aren’t who you are – they’re merely “mirrors” that indicate where the conflict resides. Fix the conflict and you’ll change your vibration. It’s that simple 🙂

The first step: Bring awareness to the conflicts

For starters, take notice of any feelings of discomfort or agitation that you experience today, as vague as it can be, and consciously trace them to their source. If you’re running away of feeling lonely or examining the relationship that is no longer acceptable to you – face it. It won’t be pleasant nor pretty, but face it.

You are unhappy with this situation. You envy your coworker. You constantly need to be surrounded by others. You’re afraid to speak your mind. You actually hate broccoli.

Whatever it may be, no matter how insignificant it sounds, just say it, acknowledge its existence. You don’t need to do anything else at the moment, just becoming aware of what it is that causes your conflict is a good start to its dissolution. By simply becoming aware of the conflict, you’re doing two important things: you’re letting go of unconscious hope that it will dissolve itself, and you will now know what causes you discomfort.

With time, even if you don’t do anything else, you will start behaving more in accordance with who you really are and become able to raise a powerful, consistent vibration. It may take some time, maybe even a few months, to dissolve all conflicting energy within you, but it’s certainly better to invest this time and to create a harmonious inner space than to wander why manifesting isn’t working for you for the rest of your life – don’t you think?

So, are you ready to stop sweeping things under the rug?